After a recent meeting, I found myself reflecting on the way that anger (in varying degrees) had prevented us from making a simple decision on a relatively innocuous matter. I wondered if my colleagues would have categorised their emotions as ‘anger’. I suspect that they wouldn’t have.
It seems to me that we often avoid describing ourselves as ‘angry’, and instead choose different words to make ourselves feel better. Some examples:
- frustrated (this is a good one, as it pins the blame/responsibility on the other person)
- irked (my personal favourite – captures the essence of the moment)
If we see anger as a negative emotion, we will tend to avoid attributing it to ourselves.
So over the next couple of days I want to give a wee bit of thought to how we can handle anger differently; how we can make other choices; how we can harness the energy that anger releases and use it productively.
If you have any hints or tips, I’d love to hear them.