That Hideous Man’s comment earlier this week got me thinking. I like his three-tier hierarchy of ‘anger issues’, and I completely agree with his suggested treatment of big issues, and also small ones.
I also think he’s right to suggest that we have a choice about how to handle the ‘medium-sized issues’ – i.e. they can’t be left where they are. However, I want to add a wee bit more to the proposal. I suggest that we should adopt Peter Bregman’s ‘Rule of Three‘ when dealing with medium-sized issues that we downgrade to low-level. So, if we find ourselves downgrading issues with the same person repeatedly, let it go twice, then raise it with them. This avoids a negative element developing in your relationship, and stops these issues festering on your head!
And, on a lighter note… a scene from the film “Anger Management”