All we have to decide is what we do with the time that is given us.

J.R.R. Tolkein

Much is said these days (and almost as much written) about busy-ness and the never-ending demands of work, family, social media… in a word, LIFE.

But the reality is different.  Everything that we do is a choice.  For example, if you feel that the demands of your work are preventing you spending time with your family, you have a choice to make.

You can choose to moan about it, resent it, get ill thinking about it (be a victim)


You can choose to spend less time with your family (prioritise work)


You can choose to spend less time at work (prioritise family)


You can choose to quit that job.

Lots of choices there.  And I can hear lots of objections.  But step back, take a walk, have a cup of tea and choose to pause and reflect on the choices that you make every day.  In my situation I am blessed with seemingly endless opportunities. (In fact there is almost too much choice.  Barry Schwartz has a good TED talk on this topic.)

Of course, when we choose to accept that we have choices to make, we are also assuming responsibility for those choices.  Maybe that’s what makes it easier to complain about what ‘they’ demand from me.  Being a victim is certainly easier on the conscience than saying ‘I choose to prioritise work over my family’.

Decisions, decisions…


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