The opposite of more

I’m a bit reluctant to disagree with Seth Godin, but I’m going to.

Yesterday he wrote that the opposite of more is not less. In his view, the opposite of more is better.

I have a different view (courtesy of Greg McKeown). I don’t think that the opposite of more is either less or better. I think it’s both… less and better. More accurately, I think it’s less BUT better. (In German. ‘Weniger aber besser’.) In other words, instead of trying to do more and more stuff/work, choose to do less, but do it better. It’s more satisfying and rewarding.

weniger-aber-besser

I also doodled about this in a previous post.

The way we walk

The way we walk

So this popped into one of my feeds today:

the-way-we-walk

(HT: @energy_project)

It resonated with me because it reminded me of something that I saw on my drive home last night.

I stopped at a set of traffic lights. While I was sitting, I noticed some movement out of the corner of my eye. I turned to see a three girls (probably about 10 yeas old) walking towards the junction. Well, two of them were walking. One of them was dancing her way along the street. And when she reached the traffic lights, she continued to bounce on her toes as she waited to cross. When it was time to cross, she resumed her wee dance and carried on.

I don’t know if the way she ‘walked’ affected her mood, but it cheered me up!

In case you’re wondering…

… where the Friday photo has gone. (Not that I expect the thought to have crossed many minds!)

I’ve decided to resurrect my photoblog. From now on, my photos will be shown there (unless I use them to illustrate an entry here). This blog will remain for my occasional musing/rambling on a variety of subjects that I know little about.

Thought you might like to know 🙂

 

My self-limiting story

(Actually, one of many!)

Yesterday’s entry highlighted an issue that probably applies to most of us. One topic stood out for me as I thought about the question:

What are the self-limiting, self-fulfilling stories that I tell myself?

I am not good at thinking on my feet.

I’ve been telling myself – and others – this story all of my adult life. It’s true that I like to have time to reflect and think before responding in most situations.

So, what am I going to do about changing my story?

Well, the first thing that I’ve told myself is that this is not unique to me. I’m confident that all of our self-limiting stories apply to many others.

Secondly, there are ways to turn my strengths to my advantage. Given my preference for reflection etc, I tend to be well prepared for most situations. And, if I tell myself that story, my confidence in responding to ad hoc queries will increase.

Thirdly, I adopt a philosophy that assumes positive intent from the other person. They’re generally not trying to trip me up or embarrass me. They want me input. So, if they value my thoughts, chances are that they’ll be willing to wait a wee while for them. So I can ask for breathing space.

 Finally, I’m actually quite comfortable with saying “I don’t know”. Omniscience is beyond me, so why add pressure?